In My opinion Normal is one of the worst words in the English language. Information is gathered from many people, it’s all put together, divided by the amount of people and we come up with the norm. The problem is we can never find a person that’s exactly the norm. So many people waste their lives trying to be the non-existent norm.
We’re all different and unique and we should remain that way. As long as you don’t do anything that intentionally hurts someone else anything you do is OK. You don’t have to be like anyone else. Just be yourself and you will be a much happier person.
When I first started out in business it seemed like every day I had a new list of problems to take care of. Luckily some were easy, but many were very hard to take care of and many never really got taken care of properly. Many problems freeze us and make it very hard for us to function properly.
After many years I eliminated the word Problem from my vocabulary and replaced it with Situation. Situations can be broken apart like jigsaw puzzles and be worked on piece by piece so they seem much smaller and are easier to deal with.
It’s much easier to be successful when you’re dealing with a lot of situations rather then a lot of problems.
It took me many years to realize that most of my brilliant ideas weren’t that brilliant. In fact even if my friends and associates liked them it didn’t mean a thing. The only people that get a vote are CUSTOMERS. So after many years I figured out if you try something, you don’t know if it was a good idea until it’s actually happening. So because of this I learned that what works best for me is looking at something after it’s happened. Then you know if it worked or not. I call this Hindsight Observed.
The only downside to this idea is if you live long enough things change and the ideas that worked before don’t work anymore. So the trick is if something doesn’t work, don’t do that again and if something works use it as long as you can.
Planning is a very good thing. Short term plans and long terms plans are an excellent way to work towards your dreams, both personal and professional. The only thing you have to be careful of is not being too rigid. You have to be flexible and be willing to make changes when necessary. Doing this properly can make your life much more successful.
Projection, on the other hand is just the opposite. You take every situation and carry it out to it’s worst conclusion. You WASTE your time. Almost every situation that you fear never happens and the one’s that do never happen the way you think they will.
Planning is great. Projection should be non-existent.