Monthly Archives: September 2015

Random Thought #21 – The Journey To Happiness – Part 4

The next step in my journey to happiness was personal relationships. We all have people in our lives that cause us much more aggravation then happiness. The more of those people that we can eliminate the happier we will be.

This is very difficult to do. Like most people I had friends that I’d grown up with but never realized how negative they were.  Any time I would spend time with them I would feel drained of all energy afterwards. It was work, not fun. Many of these relationships were 40 years or more. Ending them took me a few years. it was very difficult, but I finally did it. I can’t even tell you how much it improved my life.

Relatives were much harder. I come from a very large family. I have 48 first cousins. Every time we had a family gathering of  people it would always be stressful.  It took me a long time to figure out how to handle this. I finally decided to treat my family just like my friends. If I liked them, I saw them. If not, they were eliminated from my life. I gave up many relationships. It was very stressful. It also improved my life 1000%.

I no longer care what restaurant I eat at. I don’t care what movie I go to. I don’t care where we go on our trips. I only care who I’m with. My personal relationships now always make me feel good, not stressed out.

 

 

Random Thought #20 – The Journey To Happiness – Part 3

So far,  I was going to therapy and doing my own form of meditation, but I needed something else. I decided that I needed my own Mantra. It seems simple but it took me a long time to come up with the one that works for me, here goes.

When I wake up in the morning I tell myself it’s a great day, the only reason it’s great is because I woke up. Whether life is good or bad you can’t work it out if you don’t wake up.

I then tell myself if I want it to stay a great day I can’t have any expectations. This way if something nice happens I’m pleasantly surprised. If I had expectations I would be disappointed all day long.

The last thing I tell myself seems to work the best. Before I go to sleep I quickly review my day and ask myself is there anything I did today that’s going to make a difference hundreds of years from now. The answer is always no, so I figure because I’m not going to really do anything that means anything long term I should have another great and fun day tomorrow.

For me, it’s that simple.