The next step in my journey to happiness was personal relationships. We all have people in our lives that cause us much more aggravation then happiness. The more of those people that we can eliminate the happier we will be.
This is very difficult to do. Like most people I had friends that I’d grown up with but never realized how negative they were. Any time I would spend time with them I would feel drained of all energy afterwards. It was work, not fun. Many of these relationships were 40 years or more. Ending them took me a few years. it was very difficult, but I finally did it. I can’t even tell you how much it improved my life.
Relatives were much harder. I come from a very large family. I have 48 first cousins. Every time we had a family gathering of people it would always be stressful. It took me a long time to figure out how to handle this. I finally decided to treat my family just like my friends. If I liked them, I saw them. If not, they were eliminated from my life. I gave up many relationships. It was very stressful. It also improved my life 1000%.
I no longer care what restaurant I eat at. I don’t care what movie I go to. I don’t care where we go on our trips. I only care who I’m with. My personal relationships now always make me feel good, not stressed out.